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Is being in love a feeling or a choice？
Is being in love a feeling or a choice？
戀愛是一種感覺還是一種選擇？
It starts out as a feeling， but slowly over time， it becomes a choice。
它開始是一種感覺，但慢慢地，它變成了一種選擇。
In the beginning， we often confuse being in love with falling in love。
一開始，我們常常把戀愛和墜入愛河混淆。
Falling in love is the stage where everything is non-committal and hazy。 You don’t think about the long-term。 It hasn’t even occurred to you。 All you do is look into their eyes， twine your fingers with theirs， and think， “Man， so this is what it’s like being in love。”
戀愛是一切都不確定和模糊的階段。你不考慮長遠，也從來沒想過。你所做的只是看著他們的眼睛，用他們的手指纏繞你的手指，然後想，“夥計，這就是戀愛的感覺吧。”
But it’s not。
但它不是。
That’s not what being in love is like at all。
那根本不是戀愛的樣子。
That’s just the beginning。 That’s only the start。
這僅僅是個開始，才剛開始。
Being in love is way harder。
陷入愛河要難得多。
Being in love starts when the honeymoon stage erodes away， and you start to get into the nitty gritty of the relationship。 It’s when long nights spent on the couch， week-long arguments， and constant misunderstandings become things you are more than familiar with。
當蜜月期逐漸過去，你開始進入一段關係的實質時，戀愛就開始了。當你在沙發上度過漫漫長夜，長達一週的爭吵和不斷的誤解成為你所熟悉的事情。
Being in love is when you look at your partner， and you finally realize：
愛是當你看著你的伴侶，你終於意識到：
Love is actually a choice。
愛其實是一種選擇。
It’s a conscious decision。 Being in love is no longer just a warm， fuzzy feeling， it’s commitment。 It’s loving even when you don’t want to。
這是一個有意識的決定。戀愛不再是一種溫暖模糊的感覺，它是一種承諾。即使你不想愛，也是愛。
We constantly glamorize and romanticize being in love， but in the long-term， it’s nothing more than another thing we must tend to in our daily lives。
我們不斷地美化和浪漫化戀愛，但從長遠來看，它只不過是我們在日常生活中必須處理的另一件事。
When you’re really in love with someone， you put up with all their nonsensical bullshit and flaws。 You stay by their side even if all you want to do is leave。
當你真正愛上一個人的時候，你會忍受他們所有荒謬的廢話和缺點。你會留在他們身邊，即使你想離開。
Being in love is somehow seeing the shine in someone， despite how much they dull over the years。
戀愛就是能看到對方身上的閃光點，不管他們多年來多麼遲鈍。
And after the long days and nights， the thick and thin， you look at the one you love， the one you chose to love， your choice。
在漫長的白天和黑夜之後，無論風風雨雨，你看著你愛的人，你選擇愛的人，這是你的選擇。
And you think to yourself， “Man， so this is what it’s like being in love。”
你對自己說，“夥計，這才是戀愛的感覺。”
Being in love is a choice。 It’s extraneous and demanding， but with the right person， it can be one of the best things to ever experience in life。
戀愛是一種選擇。這是無關緊要和苛刻的，但與對的人在一起，這可能是人生中最好的經歷之一。
小編zzz總結
小時候看的童話故事裡的結局總是：從此，王子與公主幸福地生活在了一起…
長大後才懂得，其實那不是結局，真正的故事才剛剛開始。
When I was a child to see the fairy tale ending is always： from now on， the prince and the princess live happily together。。。
Grow up to understand， in fact， that is not the end， the real story has just begun。
